Last month, I had the pleasure of interviewing pop star Lily Allen about her recent collaboration with luxe sex toy brand Womanizer for The Toronto Sun.
The result of this partnership is the Womanizer Liberty by Lily Allen – a small, lightweight edition of the classic Womanizer sex toy which uses patented and revolutionary Pleasure Air Technology designed to stimulate the sensitive nerve endings of the clitoris with gentle air waves.
Since the folks at Womanizer sent me my own Liberty by Lily Allen to try, I thought it was only fair that I test the wares and report back.
It goes without saying that there’s no shortage of options when it comes to the sheer variety of sex toys that are currently available for purchase.
So, when I receive a press release announcing another celebrity sex toy collab I’m naturally a little skeptical (perhaps because I’m still emotionally scared by the Coco & Ice T vibrator and the Nick Hawk Gigolo Dildo). However, I’m excited to share that the Liberty by Lily Allen did not disappoint.
The Liberty takes everything I love about Womanizer toys and wraps it up in a fun, accessible packaging. The Liberty model comes with a magnetic cap and six intensity levels, simple two-button operation and is feather-light, perfect for travel and discreet in handbags. Oh and those air waves. You simply have to place the toy above your clitoris and the Liberty will literally blow & suck you away to a quick, intense orgasm.
Made of body safe materials and fully rechargeable, the Liberty is also water resistant.
While the Liberty doesn’t have as many bells and whistles as some of their Womanizer Premium (which I also own and is fantastic), but in this case I don’t think that’s a bad thing. I love the Liberty because it’s so compact and unlike some of the other models, fits easily in your palm in a way that feels very ergonomic.
It also has incredibly simple and intuitive control buttons that are easy to find and use without having to stop what you’re doing & fumble around.
For these reasons, Liberty is a great entree into the Womanizer line and air pleasure toys in general.
The only thing I don’t love about the Liberty is the charging situation. As you can see from the diagram below the charging cord attaches magnetically to a port along the curved edge of the toy. You have to lay the toy *just so* in order to ensure the port connects and stays connected, which isn’t always possible when you’re the kind of person who likes to discretely hide their toys away while they’re charging.
I really wish WOW Tech (the parent company of Womanizer) would stop making toys like this. The toys are awesome, but the charging ports are way too finicky for my liking. With that being said, I still really like this toy because of it’s very travel friendly (the magnetic cap is something I didn’t even realize I needed in my life) and easy to use.
Have you tried the Liberty? What did you think?
The Womanizer Liberty is available at Lovehoney and retails for $99.99 USD. If you purchase any products through the affiliate links in this post, I may receive a small commission which I will use to buy Joe the Intern more shorts.
I was speaking to an editor I work with recently, and she mentioned the post I wrote announcing my semi-retirement from sex blogging. “It seems like you started your blog to work out stuff about your sexuality and now you’ve kind of done that,” she said. Sometimes all it takes is a simple comment like that from someone else to make you realize that yes, that’s exactly what you’ve been doing all along. I started this blog in 2009 so I’d have a place to share all of my bizarre dating stories and showcase my writing, but it became so much more than that.
Through Skinny Dip I’ve been able to sort through my feelings about dating, relationships, my body and my sexuality. While I’ve mostly retired from reviewing sex toys and no longer feel the need to share so much about my current love life on this blog, I still thought it would be fun to look back and share some of the things I’ve learned about myself over the past nine years (oof) of blogging.
1. Explore and experiment to your heart’s content.
I thought I had a pretty good handle on my body and self-pleasure before I started this blog, but trying a bazillion different sex toys for the purpose of writing about them has definitely expanded that knowledge in positive ways. I can now look at the shape of a toy or feel it’s vibration patterns on my fingers and make a very good educated guess as to whether I’ll enjoy it (and while I’m occasionally still surprised, I’m usually right). The point here: don’t be afraid to experiment with different gadgets or props — even the really weird looking sex toys. Worst case scenario, you’ll learn more about what you do and don’t like.
2. If you don’t like something or it doesn’t work for you, that doesn’t mean you’re broken.
There are plenty of stores online that claim they sell the best sex machines but not all toys are created equal or are designed with every human body in mind. What’s mind blowing for one person, is going to be a flop for someone else. For example, I’ve learned through trial and error that wand vibes like the ever popular Hitachi Magic Wand, just don’t work for me AT ALL. I’d much rather use something small and precise like the Crave Duet (a vibe that another blogger hailed as a flop). Long story short: not everything is going to work for everyone and that’s okay. Life would be kind of boring if everyone got off in the exactly same way. Keep trying stuff until you find what works for you.
3. You’re not required to define your sexuality for other people.
When I decided last spring to finally explore my bi-sexuality, I felt pressure to define my sexuality for other people. I thought it would be easier to explain myself and fit in with the queer community if I gave myself a label (queer, bi, hetero-flexible etc) — and I wasn’t totally wrong about the first one. People like clearly defined labels because they’re easier to digest. However, like Justin Bobby from The Hills, “I’m just not into labels” — at least when it comes to my sexuality. It wasn’t until I was on my first really great date with a woman and my date told me, “no one in the gay community is going to force you to define yourself,” that I felt comfortable just letting things be. The truest thing I can say about my sexuality is that I am a woman who mostly dates and loves men, but sometimes has romantic and sexual feelings for women.
4. You know yourself better than anyone else and it’s okay to like what you like, however kinky or vanilla that may be.
I’ve written about the ridiculous assumptions people have about me because I write about sex. For example, that I must be super kinky and/or sleep with evvvvveryone (I mean, really guys?) Nine years in and I’m really tired of having to explain on a weekly basis that I don’t have my very own sex dungeon (however, I’d kill for some more shoe storage space). While writing about sex has definitely opened my mind to new things and encouraged me to explore my sexuality, it’s also helped reconfirm what I’ve known to be true about myself all along: that I can enjoy different kinds of sexual experiences, but the kind I crave most isn’t necessarily very kinky. I want sex that is super passionate, but also includes a great mind-body/emotional connection. This isn’t always easy to find, which is part of the reason I don’t have as much sex as people probably think I do. Like #3, I also used to feel the need to explain this to people, until I realized that it’s no one’s business but my own.
5. Stay open.
Not only am I more open-minded when it comes to my own desires, writing about sex has given me a greater appreciation for the diversity of human sexuality. While I know myself a lot better than I did nine years ago and I still have some “hard passes” when it comes to dating and sex, I’m also open to those beliefs and desires changing. Sexuality isn’t static. It’s okay to evolve and change over time. In other words, know yourself but never say never.
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I found a sex related topic I haven’t written about yet: mattresses! I never considered the impact mattress comfort had on my sex life until I moved in with my ex-partner. I went from sleeping on a reasonably comfortable spring mattress to spending my nights atop of an Ikea foam mattress that I’m pretty sure was designed by Satan himself. Every morning I’d wake up with a sore back and achy muscles. I have a back injury and when my back doesn’t feel good, my libido suffers. When we finally made the switch and invested in a super comfy mattress, it had a positive impact on our sex life. (It’s amazing how much sexier you feel when you’re no longer living in a real-life version of the sofa bed episode of Seinfeld.)
So, without further adieu, here are a few pointers on how to choose the right mattress so your sex life never has to suffer.
Comfort
When choosing a mattress for sex, comfort is one of the things you don’t want to mess around with. Anyone who’s ever had the unfortunate experience of having sex on a futon only to wake up the next day feeling like their body was put through a trash compactor, knows exactly what I’m talking about. The last thing you want is to strain your body while making love (this is especially true if you already have an injury like I do.) Some mattresses will strain your knees, buttocks, or hands, and other areas of your body that offer support during sex. When these are strained, you will get tired out more quickly and may even wake up to body pain. Look for a mattress that’s comfortable and supportive so that sex can be as pleasurable as possible — something that’s more difficult to achieve when you’re worried about your mattress giving you shin splints.
Noise
While most people have differing preferences when it comes to noise during sex, I think most of us can agree that there’s nothing sexy about a creaky, squeaky mattress. This is especially true if you live with other people and want to keep things, um, discreet. Instead, aim to create an environment that allows you to focus on your partner with minimal distractions. By providing comfort and discretion, a quiet mattress will help increase performance and pleasure for both of you.
Bounce effect
To maintain rhythm and endurance you’ll want to make sure your mattress offers sufficient bounce. A rigid base may not offer this. When you don’t have enough bounce, your partner will feel like they’re being pressed into the mattress — and not in a good way. So, make sure you find a mattress with sufficient bounce for maximum pleasure.
Edge support
When choosing a mattress to bolster your sex life, you also need to think about edge support — the encasement around the frame that spring mattresses require to support the springs. A good mattress will offer sufficient edge support to ensure safety and comfort, and will be designed to accommodate weight and pressure, without collapsing (I’m not sure what that would look like, but it doesn’t sound fun). Instead of worrying about stuff, a good mattress allows you to focus on what’s important: great sleep and satisfaction from sex.
So, there you have it. If you’re shopping for a mattress with sex in mind, these tips should help. Think about it: the average person sleeps for one third of their life (if you sleep approx 8 hours a night and live for 75 years, that’s 25 years or 9,125 days that you spend asleep). You owe it to yourself to create the perfect refuge and playground for you and your partner(s) with a good mattress.
Temptation Cancun Resort is a topless-optional, all-inclusive, adults-only resort in Cancun, known for its vibrant party scene, sexy design, and judgment-free atmosphere.
Are you curious about visiting a clothing-optional resort but unsure what to expect? As someone who has stayed at Temptation Cancun Resort five times and even embarked on the Temptation Caribbean Cruise, I can confidently say this adults-only, topless-optional resort is a must-visit for anyone looking to unwind, meet like-minded people, and embrace a carefree, body-positive atmosphere.
If you’re considering booking a stay at Temptation Cancun Resort, here’s everything you need to know before you book!
What is Temptation Cancun Resort? A Topless Optional Adults Only Vacation
Temptation Cancun Resort is a topless-optional, all-inclusive, adults-only resort designed for guests 21+. Known as a “playground for grown-ups,” the resort features bold, modern designs by world-renowned designer Karim Rashid, a lively party atmosphere, and an inclusive, judgment-free environment where you can be yourself. It’s located right in the heart of the Cancun hotel zone (about 30 minutes from the airport) with beachfront access.
What to Expect at Temptation Cancun: A Topless-Optional Resort
1. Going Topless at Temptation Cancun is Completely Optional
If you’re nervous about the clothing-optional aspect—don’t be! At Temptation, guests can choose to go topless or stay covered, and no one will judge them. You’ll see a mix of styles, from bikinis and one-pieces to women confidently bearing it all.
2. You Will See (a Lot of) Boobs at Temptation Cancun
Let’s be honest—this is a topless-optional resort. Expect to see plenty of bare chests, especially by the pool. Within my first 20 minutes at Temptation Cancun Resort, I looked across the pool and saw a woman vigorously applying sunscreen to her very ample breasts. It’s all part of the experience; you likely won’t notice anymore after the first day.
3. Temptation Cancun is NOT a Swingers Resort, But…
There’s often confusion about whether Temptation Cancun is a swingers’ resort—it’s not. While you may meet guests in the lifestyle, the resort is not specifically for swingers. Although it’s sexy themed, it’s also not a sex resort. It’s a judgment-free zone where people go to let loose, have fun, and enjoy their vacation on their terms. Think: spring break but for adults!
With that being said, if hooking up with a couple — or other singles — is on your sexual bucket list, booking a stay at Temptation is a good place to start. Even if you’re not looking to “play,” you’ll probably get hit on — or at the very least checked out – by a couple. Everyone is really respectful though, so if you’re not into it, it’s totally OK to politely decline.
4. Everyone is at Temptation to have a good time, on their own terms.
Some people just want to go topless and love the laid-back, friendly vibe. Other guests are there to spice up their relationship and/or test boundaries (even if they’re not actively trying to hook up with anyone, there’s the possibility that it may happen, and sometimes that’s enough.) And of course, there are also people (like me) who just want to chill by the pool and eat as much guacamole as possible, with zero judgment. However you cut it, if you have a freak flag, this is the perfect place to let it flap freely in the wind.
5. There’s a Culture of Consent at Clothing-Optional Resorts
There is a strict “no means no” policy that’s built into the Temptation Cancun resort guidelines that every guest has to sign off on upon check-in. People will ask you before they touch you — even if it’s just a hug.
6. The Crowd is Older.
If you think you’ll be surrounded by 20-somethings, think again. For the most part, the crowd is 30+ The price point is a bit higher than a regular resort, so Temptation Cancun tends to attract a more mature and established crowd. While I met a lot of people in their 30s and early 40s, there are also lots of guests in their 50s, 60s and 70s!
7. There’s a Body-Positive, Confidence-Boosting Atmosphere
Temptation is one of the most body-positive resorts I’ve ever visited. All shapes, sizes, and ages are welcome. If you’ve ever felt self-conscious in a swimsuit, this is the perfect place to embrace your body and feel empowered.
8. Experience the Boobs Cruise – the Ultimate Party Boat
For an unforgettable adventure, sign up for the Boobs Cruise, a wild, adults-only boat party. Hosted by the team behind CancunCare, this all-day excursion includes unlimited drinks, high-energy entertainment, and stops at Isla Mujeres for beach fun. Expect playful games, dancing, and a lively, anything-goes atmosphere. The Boobs Cruise isn’t organized by the resort or included in the all-inclusive experience so you’ll need to sign up for it separately. However, it’s a must-do if you want to take your Temptation experience to the next level!
The Vibe: Daytime & Nighttime Fun at Temptation Cancun Resort
9. Two Distinct Pools with Different Vibes
The Sexy Pool: The party hub with music, contests, and high-energy entertainment. Think foam parties, live DJs, and fun challenges.
The Quiet Pool: A peaceful escape where you can sunbathe, relax, and sip cocktails in tranquility. I loved spending my mornings here just relaxing with a book before the craziness of the afternoon took hold.
10. Non-Stop Entertainment & Themed Parties
Temptation Cancun is famous for its nightly-themed parties, encouraging creative costumes and playful interactions. Some popular themes include:
Lingerie Night
White Party
Glow Night
Superheroes & Villains
Dining & Drinks: Is the Food at Temptation Cancun Good?
11. Seven Restaurants to Choose From
Temptation Cancun has seven different restaurants, offering a variety of cuisines, from Mexican and Italian to seafood and international buffets – and yes, the food is actually quite good. Some highlights include:
Sea Flirt: Great for fresh seafood and breakfast. I love the breakfast enchiladas.
Rain (buffet): Breakfast is probably my favorite meal and the buffet doesn’t disappoint. I enjoyed the mix of American and Mexican dishes, the selection of fresh fruit and daily green juices.
Romanza: High-end Italian cuisine (I loved their risotto and wine selection)
Sutra: a buzzy, Asian-fusion restaurant. Reserve ahead of time if you want a seat at the habachi table (it’s worth it!)
Amores: Mexican-American fusion (don’t miss the endless tacos, ceviche and guacamole!).
SHE: a couples only, erotic-themed fine dining experience that features live, sensual entertainment (translation: there’s a stage with a pole in the middle of the dining area). It’s included in the all inclusive experience so if you’re a couple, it’s worth reserving this restaurant so you can experience it at least once.
12. All-Inclusive, But Bring Cash for Tips
Tipping is included, but the staff provides fantastic service, so you’ll want to show appreciation—budget around USD 20 per day for tips.
Essential Tips for Your Stay at Temptation Cancun
13. Pack Light, But Don’t Forget These Items:
Sunscreen: Sunburnt nipples are not fun.
Costumes: For themed parties.
Earplugs: The nightclub music can go on until 2 AM.
14. What You’ll Find (and Won’t Find) in the Gift Shop
The gift shop at Temptation Resort sells sex toys, lingerie, costumes, condoms, lubricants, Cialis, and Viagra, but you might be out of luck if you’re looking for gum or bobby pins. I learned this the hard way (pun not intended). For what it’s worth, the sexy items are heavily marked up. It’s best to bring your stuff from home.
Luckily, there’s a drugstore across the street where you can stock up on essentials—including deeply discounted over-the-counter skincare products like Retin-A and Kitocell, all without a prescription.
15. Be Prepared for Some Unforgettable Moments at This Topless Optional Resort
Let’s say—you’ll see and hear things you can’t unsee. But that’s part of the fun! From poolside contests to spontaneous dance parties, you never know what’s coming next.
While on the way to dinner, we saw a group of people partying completely nude on their balcony. While sexual activity is prohibited in public spaces, you will see things. Some notable sightings: A very large man in a very tiny man-thong. The beginnings of what looked like a foursome popping off in the pool. An underwater blow-job/hand-job. More men in thongs. To quote my friend Laura, “My eyes will never be the same.”
16. Expect to Make Lifelong Friends at Temptation Cancun Resort
One of the best things about Temptation is the people you meet. Guests often return year after year because of the friendships (and memories) they make. As the bikini tops come off, so do inhibitions (the cocktails also don’t hurt!) If you want to, you can quickly meet new people every day just by hanging out in the sexy pool, where all the action takes place during the day.
17. You’ll Leave Wanting to Return.
Maybe it was the amazing people I met, the daily breakfast enchiladas I consumed or the sheer ridiculousness of it all (where else can you find a poolside “orgasm faking contest” or dance half-naked to Billy Ocean’s Carribean Queen while enjoying the best the swim-up bar has to offer?) but in just a few short days, Temptation managed to turn me from a skeptic into a believer.
Final Verdict: Is Temptation Cancun Resort Worth It?
If you’re looking for a fun, sexy, clothing-optional resort experience with great food, an energetic atmosphere, and a welcoming community, Temptation Cancun Resort is worth visiting. Whether you want to party at the Sexy Pool, relax at the Quiet Pool, or enjoy a topless-optional getaway, this is the place to let loose and be yourself. It’s also a terrific entry-level starting point if you’re curious about clothing-optional or swingers resorts but aren’t quite ready to take the plunge.
Would I go back? Absolutely—I already have five times! I love the freedom and feeling of body acceptance that come with the environment. You will see every different kind of body imaginable, which made me feel more confident in my skin.
And if you’re looking to take the experience to the next level, the Temptation Cruise is an unforgettable adventure at sea. It’s a topless-optional, all-inclusive cruise designed for party lovers. The cruise features themed parties, play areas, and sexy entertainment while visiting some of the best tropical destinations. I went in 2020 and we cruised from Tampa, Florida to Mexico and the Cayman Islands.
Book Your Stay & Experience the Fun
Ready to experience Temptation Cancun for yourself? Book a stay. Pack your best swimwear (or not), embrace the freedom, and get ready for an unforgettable vacation. Got a question? Email me!
Real talk: your body starts to go through some interesting changes in your 30’s. I’ve gained weight, lost weight, dealt with adult acne, finally cured said acne—the list goes on. The latest phenomenon to add to my ever-growing list of body changes: hormonal night sweats. I wake up drenched at least 4-5 nights per month. It’s disconcerting, it’s uncomfortable and, apparently, totally normal for someone my age. Has anyone else experienced these?
Another thing I’ve heard a lot about but haven’t experienced yet is vaginal dryness. I’ve written a lot about the benefits of lube in the bedroom, but what if you just feel dry on a day to day basis?
I firmly believe that in order to feel good in our bodies, we need to be able to have open, honest conversations about them—even about the stuff that may seem less than sexy. So, today I’ve teamed up with Vagisil to get the conversation started.
Although vaginal dryness doesn’t currently affect me at this point in my life, I do have some women in my life who have experienced issues with dryness following pregnancy and other hormonal changes. Here’s what we need to remember: experiencing vaginal dryness is also completely normal and nothing to be ashamed of.
I used to think that vaginal dryness was just a menopause issue, but actually, women of all ages can experience it at some time in their life. There are a bunch of potential causes of vaginal dryness, including:
Stress
Pregnancy
Certain medications (like antihistamines and birth control pills)
Periods
Menopause/Peri-menopause
Hormones
Postnatal hormone shifts
IVF treatments
More real talk: I have a long-standing relationship with Vagisil products. Years ago, when I first moved to Toronto as a somewhat wide-eyed 18-year-old and was living on my own for the first time, I experienced my first yeast infection. I remember calling my mom because I had no idea what was happening to my body (I think my exact words were, “Mom, I’m pretty sure I’m dying”). One of the first things she suggested was that I go pick up a tube of Vagisil® Extra Strength Anti-Itch crème. FYI: I wasn’t dying and the cream definitely provided some relief.
Vagisil recently launched ProHydrate Natural Feel Moisturizing Gel, a product designed to target vaginal dryness. With no added estrogen, perfumes, dyes or preservatives, it’s designed to give women a feeling of natural moisture, wherever and whenever, with a discreet and easy to use applicator.
So, what exactly is ProHydrate Natural Feel Moisturizing Gel? Good question. Basically, it’s a product designed to relieve dryness anytime and make sex more comfortable. Fast acting and long lasting, it has a unique bio-adherent formula that coats the vaginal wall to provide dryness relief instantly, then slowly releases moisture over time. It does this through a unique blend of moisturizers, including Hyaluronic Acids (HA’s), a naturally occurring hydrator found in skin, so it feels like your own natural moisture.
As we age, the percentage of Hyaluronic Acid in our skin decreases which can lead to dryness and fragility. Hyaluronic Acid is so effective that a tiny amount holds up to 1000 times its weight in water and it naturally attracts and retains moisture.
To provide continuous comfort you can use Vagisil® ProHydrate Natural Feel every three days.
“Sounds great, but how do I get the product where it needs to be?”
Anyone who’s used any kind of intimate lubricant knows that things can get, uh, messy fast. One of the things I think is really cool about the ProHydrate Natural Feel Moisturizing Gel is that it comes with single-use pre-filled applicator inserts (wrapped in tampon-like packaging) that effortlessly target the source of dryness. They’re easy to use and totally discreet.
I was also sent a few other products to check out:
Vagisil® pH Balanced wash.
Did you know that your period, tight clothes, sex, even body washes and soap can disrupt your pH balance? This gentle cleanser contains LactoPrebiotic to help support a healthy pH balance. If you’re like me and find a lot of body washes really irritating, this might be a good option for you.
Vagisil® Extra Strength Anti-Itch crème.
Ah yes, an old standby. Although I’ve been lucky and haven’t needed to use this product lately, it’s always a good one to keep handy just in case. Because, well, life with a vagina can be unpredictable.
So, while I don’t necessarily need to use all of these products currently, it’s really nice to know I have options from a brand I trust, if/when I need them in the future.
This post was sponsored by Vagisil. All opinions are my own, because that’s how I roll.
While the Liberty doesn’t have as many bells and whistles as some of their Womanizer Premium (which I also own and is fantastic), but in this case I don’t think that’s a bad thing. I love the Liberty because it’s so compact and unlike some of the other models, fits easily in your palm in a way that feels very ergonomic.
