You mean it really IS all Cuddling and no Sex?


I got so wrapped up in the lingering excitement of Canada’s Gold Medal Hockey on Sunday night that I forgot to get excited about something else…


MY DATING COLUMN ON 20-SOMETHING.CA LAUNCHED!

My very first column is published and ready for you to read HERE.

This has been a long time in the making so I’m really happy that its finally up. I hope you enjoy it!

So, now that I have one column under my belt, I’ve been bugging my friends for ideas for my next article.The other day, my friend emailed me a link to CUDDLE PARTY.COM with a note saying “you should totally blog about this!”. Have you heard of “Cuddle Parties”? Yeah, neither have I.

Someone I shared the link with described the concept perfectly as “The exact opposite of a Fight Club” . That pretty much sums it up. Cuddleparty.com says that they offer a A structured, safe workshop on boundaries, communication, intimacy and affection. A drug and alcohol-free way to meet fascinating people in a relaxing environment. A laboratory where you can experiment with what makes you feel safe and feel good.” From what I was able to gather from the website the parties involve a lot of hugging, “non-sexual touching”, “puppy piling” and you get to wear your pajamas (in the daytime!!). I feel like this is just BEGGING, CRYING OUT to be under-cover blogged about. Oh to be a fly on that wall. As much as I enjoy wearing pajamas as much as possible (really hideously ridiculous ones, covered in giant polka dots or polar bears–in the privacy of my own home) I don’t think I could make it through one of these parties. The whole touching strangers/having strangers touch me thing kind of terrifies me.

I was reading through the “Cuddlemonials” (I WISH I could make this stuff up) and here are a few of the key words/phrases people have used to describe the parties:“addictive”, “freedom” “less inhibited” “intimacy” “fascinating people” “warm place” “giving and receiving comfortably” “people piling on top of each other”. Oh yeah this sounds kind of familiar: throw in some guy in wide leg pants massaging your shoulders, some heavy bass and a couple tabs of MDMA and you have… a RAVE! (or the back Patio of The Barn on Church St. Wow, have I seen some things that I shouldn’t have there–mostly of the “giving and receiving comfortably” variety. Yowza). Even at the height of my reckless partying days I always avoided the strange circles of massaging masses. Even while totally loaded, it always seemed kind of creepy to me. Any kind of “connecting” I did in those days was always behind closed doors and usually involved one (or two) preferably very hot people. I figure if touching strangers was too much even when wasted, its best not to attempt it sober.

If you’re interested in leading a Cuddle Party, you can become a fascilitator. Yeah, that’s something to add to the resume: “John really spearheaded the Corporate Merger…and he’s also great at facilitating non-sexual touching”. HIRED! And apparently things really don’t get sexual at these events. In the FAQ’s there is a whole section that discusses how to handle erections, should they “pop up” during the party. I have this image of a tie-dye wearing, new age-y facilitator quietly pulling aside the poor guy and saying “Its perfectly natural. Just imagine Betty White naked. That’s what I do every time I need to kill the mood”

With that said, I can’t help but wonder if these parties are the result of all that stuff I was talking about in my article: that in our accelerated, technology driven society we are becoming increasingly disconnected from each other to the point where people are so desperate for human connections that they are willing to give up prime Saturday afternoon brunching hours & $40 to hug strangers.

Luckily, I haven’t reached that point yet. Sorry, this girl will not be attending the next G-rated orgy.

(And if I do, trust me you’ll hear about it.)

What do guys think? Would you consider cuddling with strangers?
How far would you go for a great story/blog entry?

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