Some of the best conversations I’ve ever had have occurred between my Mom and I while we sit at our kitchen table. We have a nice living room but we really only use it for watching TV. The kitchen table is where everything goes down in our house. It’s where we show our love through food, have our morning coffee, talk about life, laugh, cry. It’s the same story whenever I go to my grandma’s house. The kitchen table is where it’s at. I haven’t figured out if this is a Eastern European thing or just a “my family thing.” Last week one of my kitchen table conversations with my Mom turned to my recent (albeit reluctant) foray into self-help books. I was trying to explain to my Mom the concept behind the book He’s Just Not That Into that I wrote about recently. I explained that the book teaches you how to value you yourself, not waste time on guys who aren’t really into you and to let the good ones come to you.
I absolutely adore this photo.
{found via Pinterest}
“I don’t know Simone. It doesn’t sound very modern. It sounds like the men still have all the power. Like, they are allowed to just go ahead and do whatever they want and all the responsibility for dating falls on the women to let them know that they are jerks” my Mom responded.
“I know it probably sounds that way Mom but think about it: If more women made a commitment to stop accepting sub-par treatment from the people they date and men realized that they could no longer get laid as easily, the game would change. Basically it comes down to basic economics. If the market changes and you don’t adapt you get left in the dust.”
(As you can tell I’ve been watching too many episodes of House of Lies – which I love BTW)
“Oh and Mom, this doesn’t just apply to men. There’s women out who treat men like crap too.”
“Ok, I see your point”
“Besides, as much as we like to think we can control other people’s actions, we can’t. We can only control how we react to them.”
“That’s true”
“I’m learning stuff Mom”
“I know. I raised a smart cookie”
(and yes, I learned that last bit in therapy. THERAPY RULES!)
My final thoughts on He’s Just Not that Into You:
I initially thought this book was going to be silly but it got me thinking. We are all entitled to awesome relationships that make us happy. Imagine what would happen if we all made a commitment to stop wasting the pretty, to respect and demand respect from the people around us and only accept the best treatment: I think we’d start a love revolution. My suggestion:
Let’s start a love revolution this weekend. Who’s onboard?!
Happy Weekend! xox
