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I’ve been lusting after the Lelo Ina vibrator ever since my friend described it as her very own “5 seconds to orgasm machine”. The Lelo Ina is the “rabbit vibe” version of one of my favourite toys, the Lelo Mona. They’re very similar in shape, however the Lelo Ina is designed to stimulate both of your happy spots (C-spot and G-Spot!) I was super excited when the lovely folks over at Ohhh Canada decided to make my vibrator dreams come true and send me a Lelo Ina to try (Thank you!!)

The basics:

The Lelo Ina is a dual stimulation luxury vibrator from the geniuses over at Swedish sex toy company Lelo. In true Lelo style, Ina is very stylish and looks like a piece of art. Completely body-safe, Ina is made of luxury, high grade silicone and plastic that is silky smooth to the touch. The toy has two powerful motors – one in the protruding bit (for clit stimulation) and one in the shaft (for internal stimulation) that produce throbbing, intense vibrations. It has easy to use controls that allow you to cycle through 7 different vibration modes and intensity levels with ease. The controls can be locked to help prevent embarrassing sex toy mishaps while travelling. The Ina is fully rechargeable with means no more batteries, baby! (I love, love, love rechargeable toys because they are so much more convenient than battery operated toys.) In true Scandinavian style, Ina is a bright, sassy orange colour – which is kind of a refreshing change from all of the pink & purple toys out there!

The Skinny:

As someone who really loves toys with powerful, deep vibrations, the Lelo Ina definitely fits the bill. It’s has strong rumbling vibrations that will lead to some intense internal & external orgasms…often simultaneously… Yowza! The toy is ergonomically designed to fit snugly within a woman’s body. One word to describe the Lelo Ina: INTENSE. The curved shaft pinpoints your G-Spot while the snug fitting clitoral arm puts steady pressure on your clit. Using this toy felt a bit like being on one of those roller-coasters where you race up at a 90 degree angle to death defying heights, do a series of upside down circles and then head back down the way you came up. It’s thrilling but also kind of like “That was awesome, but what the f**k just happened?!” It took a while to get used to the intensity of this toy.

If you need a lot of pressure on your clit to get off, you will love the Lelo Ina when it’s “In ya“ (get it?!). However, if you prefer teasing “fluttering” sensations for clitoral stimulation (i.e.. like what a classic rabbit vibrator might offer) I’d suggest you try the Lelo Soraya instead. I could be biased because it’s my favourite toy ever, but I prefer a vibrator that has a longer shaft and a more flexible clitoral arm. Although I definitely liked the Ina and will be playing with it regularly, I still prefer my Lelo Soraya because I’m able to control the intensity & pressure more to my liking.

So you can see the difference in shape, here’s a photo of the two toys side by side:

To give you an idea of size, the Ina has 3.5″ of insertable length, whereas the Soraya has 5.5″ of insertable length.

Who I’d recommend this toy to:

Anyone who likes a toy with intense vibrations, couples who are looking to add something new to their bedroom play, anyone who is looking to upgrade their rabbit vibrator to something more slick & intense.

Has anyone else tried the Lelo Ina? What’s your favorite toy?

Thanks again to Ohhh Canada for sending me my very own Ina! I received the toy free of charge in exchange for my honest assessment of the product.

I think I’ve found the vibrator Holy Grail.

After over a year of lusting after the Lelo Insignia Soraya, it’s finally mine…alllll mine…and I couldn’t be happier.

Once I dated this guy who had a really long and think penis. Every time we had sex, it hit my G-spot every. single. time. Until that point I’d never experienced anything like it. Consequently, all of the multiple orgasms made me go a little crazy. I couldn’t stop thinking about the sex. I yearned for it all the time when he wasn’t around. I even dreamt about it. When we were together, the world could be falling apart outside, but as long as he was in my bed, I didn’t care. I was completely dick whipped.

Unfortunately though, he knew this and used it to his advantage. Often we’d be lying in bed naked, doing everything but actually fucking and right before the actual point of penetration he’d say something like “I’m not going to have sex with you today.” Or, he’d pull out mid-sex and tell me “we’ll finish this later.” It was the biggest tease and it drove me absolutely insane. Who refuses a beautiful naked girl who wants to have sex with you? I’m not used to being told no.

In very uncharacteristic fashion, this guy had me begging for penis. To this day, I honestly think he got pleasure out of denying me that final pleasure that I so desperately wanted. Clearly this guy was into some fucked up mind games. However, because the orgasms had turned me into a total dum-dum, I neglected to see the fact that not only did this guy have a big dick, he was a big dick.

This is all to say that the Lelo Soraya reminds me a bit of that guy, except – as long as I keep it charged properly it never, ever says “No” to me.

The Lelo Insignia Soraya is an excellent high-end, dual function rabbit vibrator that totally lives up to it’s hype. Considered by many as one of the top vibrators out there, this toy is waterproof, rechargeable, Phthalates free, hypoallergenic, multifunction and uniquely ergonomic. The Lelo Insignia Soraya is made of a combination of silky smooth silicone and lightweight, metallic coloured ABS plastic. It has 8 different, powerful vibration modes that you can turn up or down, depending on the intensity that you’re looking for. You can control the modes and intensity through an easy to use control pad located at the base of the toy. The Soraya has two motors: one for the insertable portion and one for the clitoral stimulator or “arm.” This is awesome because it means you can use either the G-Spot or clitoral stimulation on their own, or you can use them together (the later is heavenly!)

Why I think the Lelo Insignia Soraya is one of the best vibrators on the market:

The ergonomic design: The loop in the handles makes The Soraya very easy to use. With two fingers through the loop and one behind the clitoral stimulator, you can easily control this toy and adjust it to where it needs to go. The sleek design also means that you’re less likely to get awkward wrist cramps after extended use (and yes, you probably will want to use this toy extensively.)

The only downside to the design is that there is a seam between the pink silicone portion of the toy and the metallic plastic part, which could potentially trap some bacteria. However, I haven’t had any issues with this at all. I clean my toys really thoroughly before and after each use with a toy cleaner like System Jo Anti-bacterial toy cleaner or Pjur Med Clean Spray and suggest you do the same.

Flexible clitoral arm: As I’ve mentioned in some of my other sex toy reviews, one of the most common failures among rabbit vibrators is that the clitoral stimulator is awkward, inflexible or doesn’t line up with your anatomy properly. The Lelo Soraya resolves this issue by providing a clitoral stimulator that is well placed and flexible. If you want to add more pressure, you can easily press down on it with your finger that isn’t looped through the handle for a very pleasurable effect.

Strong vibrations and generous size: Two other issues I often run into when it comes to sex toys a) the vibrations are too weak or b) the toy isn’t long enough to hit my g-spot. The Lelo Soraya’s vibration modes range from pleasant & softly humming to intense, rumbling vibrations that will definitely satisfy advanced toy users who like their vibes to go long & hard. The toy offers approx. 5.5 inches of insertable length and a slightly more bulbous head which is just perfect for me.

Overall pleasure, aka “this toy will give you insane orgasms” Although this is the most expensive sex toy I own, it’s also one of the best vibrators I have ever tried. To put it plainly, it made me come again & again & again (take that Mr. “I have a Magic Penis and like to play mind games”!) The first time I tried it, the orgasms were so intense they actually left me in a bit of daze. Later that day I met up with my Mom. When she saw me she said:

“What are you wearing?”

I was wearing a romper that I threw on after my toy session & shower.

“It’s a romper”

“It looks weird, like you’re wearing it inside out”

I look down and sure enough, I’m wearing my clothes inside out.

So there you have it. The Lelo Soraya: a vibrator that gives orgasms that are so good, they might render you temporarily unable to function.

This post was sponsored by EdenFantasys. I received a gift certificate to fund my on-going addiction to sex-toys and lingerie, in exchange for this post. All opinions, comments and TMI information is my own, because that’s how I roll.

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Hysteria is just your average romantic comedy about a man, his vibrator and several hundred women.

Loosely based on real events, Hysteria is a film that tells the story of the invention of the first vibrator for women amidst the height of Victorian prudishness. I’ve been wanting to see the movie ever since it headlined at the Toronto International Film Festival last year and I finally got to watch it a few nights ago.

Hysteria follows Mortimer Granville (Hugh Dancy), a young doctor who gets a job working with Dr. Dalrymple, an established physician who specializes in the treatment of “Female Hysteria” – an umbrella term that seems to cover a ridiculous plethora of ailments affecting women of the time. Symptoms include nervousness, moodiness, insomnia, exhaustion, depression, cramps, sexual desire, lack of sexual desire, irritability, and a “tendency to cause trouble”. Like other medical practitioners of the time, Dr Dalrymple’s treats Hysteria through “genital massage” to create “paroxysmal convulsions” – in other words, orgasms. Dashingly handsome Mortimer becomes quite the skilled “masseuse” and soon develops an extensive female following. Unfortunately though, getting women off for the sake of medical science also comes with a price: a nasty case of carpal tunnel syndrome. To give his aching fingers a break, Mortimer devises an electric-mechanical vibrator (think the original ancestor of The Hitachi Magic Wand) to do the job for him. The first sex toys for women are born & hilarity ensues!

Although this film is a comedy, you learn some very disturbing facts about medical science, the treatment of “Hysteria” and the position of women within Victorian society. The film discusses how “Female Hysteria” was thought to be caused by having an enlarged uterus and in extreme cases when other treatments had failed, women were subjected to Hysterectomies. You quickly figure out that “Hysteria” was merely a catch-all term used to describe any woman who wasn’t happy with the rigid confines of Victorian society. Can you imagine being forced to get a Hysterectomy just because your behavior, emotions and thoughts didn’t fit within the box that society had built for you? That’s some scary shit. What’s even more scary is that “Female Hysteria” was still used as a medical diagnosis until 1952.

A feather duster, the prototype for the "Jolly Molly" vibrator and a very pleased customer.

Shudder inducing historical facts aside, Hysteria is a comedy that is full of witty puns, double entendres and Victorian manners. Maggie Gyllenhaal is delightful as Charlotte, the daughter of Dr. Dalrymple, a premodern feminist who catches Dr. Mortimer’s attention when she calls out his treatment for what it really is: glorified finger banging. Charlotte is smart, outspoken, independent and full of sass – all characteristics that make her an outcast amongst her uptight, upper crust peers and the best part of the movie.

A cute guy, a sassy girl, sex toys, witty jokes and a little bit of feminism thrown in for good measure – what’s not to like?! Although I really wanted to love this movie, there was something about it that just rubbed me the wrong way (pardon the pun.) Last night it finally dawned on me what bothered me about Hysteria. This is film directed by a woman, about the birth of an adult toy designed for specifically for a woman’s pleasure, yet it’s told completely from a man’s perspective. Dr. Granville is cute, but who cares? Charlotte is by far the most interesting part of the film and I would have enjoyed the story more if it had been told through her eyes. What was it like to be a feminist in the 1890’s? What made her break away from her peers? Heck, I would have liked to have learned more about any of the female characters in the movie. What were the circumstances in their lives that drove them to “Hysteria”? We only see them getting off, but did their lives change after they got their hands on their first vibrator? I was disappointed when none of these issues were addressed in the film. I wanted to see the women armed with their new sense of empowerment, walk off into the sunset and never look back. Instead, the film ended the way most Hollywood movies do: with a happy union between a man and a woman.

Another reason to love Charlotte: she knows how to rock a sassy black ball-gown.

Although Hysteria wasn’t the movie I expected, or was hoping for, I still enjoyed watching it. They managed to blend two genres that I don’t usually enjoy – rom-coms and period pieces – and turn it into a movie that was witty and entertaining – a perfect movie to watch if you want to see a rom-com that doesn’t suck.

Most of all, the movie left me with a feeling of gratitude. Although society still has a long way to go, I am grateful that I live in a time and place where I can openly express my sexuality, where I’m not at risk of being diagnosed with an arbitrary medical condition just because I am different, and where I can buy gorgeous, body safe sex toys like the Lelo Insignia Soraya, The Jopen Vanity 3 or the We-Vibe 3 that don’t look like alien probes ready to electrocute my lady parts….and that right there, is something to celebrate.

Has anyone else seen this movie? What did you think?

This post was sponsored by EdenFantasys who provided me with a gift certificate to fund my on-going addiction to luxury sex toys and sexy lingerie in exchange for my post. All opinions are my own because that’s how I roll.

Ladygasm is the new sex toy company on the block and I like what they are about. They believe that every woman deserves to feel good and have access to high quality, body safe, sex toys. Their mission is to design sex toys for real Women: “Women with bank accounts both big and small. Women of all shapes and sizes. Women who believe in the universality of simply feeling great.” Therefore, Ladygasm have created an exclusive line of rechargeable sex toys at a more affordable price point than many of the luxury brands on the market.

When the nice people over at Ladygasm told me that they were sending me my very own Ladygasm Vice, I was really excited to try the toy because of it’s interesting shape. The Ladygasm Vice is body safe, waterproof, rechargeable, dual stimulation “rabbit” vibrator made of silky soft medical grade silicone. It has a rounded, flexible clitoral arm and an exotic bulbous shaft designed to hit all the right nerve endings. The toy has two separate motors – one in the clitoral arm and one in the shaft – in order to ensure deep and intense vibrations. The Ladygasm is a gorgeous toy esthetically with one easy to use control button at the base. The Vice comes in a beautiful black box and includes an elegant mesh carry case.

The biggest drawback of this toy is that the online description is slightly misleading. The toy has been toted as being “virtually silent” – it’s not. The Ladygasm Vice is actually one of the loudest toys I own. When I turned it on for the first time, I actually jumped a bit because it was surprisingly loud. Secondly, the Vice is also described as being of “slightly larger size” and “longer and fuller” of which it is neither. The Ladygasm Vice is actually one of the smallest and most narrow toys I own. It’s approximately 7.5 inches long, with only 4.5 inches of that actually insertable. To give you an idea of the size, I’ve taken this photo so you can see it compared to the Siena Symphony and the Lelo Soraya:

L-R: Siena Symphony, Lelo Soraya, Ladygasm Vice

As you can see, the Vice is just a little guy.

Although, the Vice’s size doesn’t hinder it’s performance, I was expecting a nice thick, long toy like the True Love Honey Bunny or either of the ones featured in the photo. Instead, the toy is much more slender and delicate than what you’d expect. If I had actually purchased this toy I think I would have been disappointed. A more accurate description of the product would definitely help better set customers expectations (especially customers like me, who already own quite a few luxury toys.)

With that said, this toy definitely delivers on it’s promise of intense vibrations. The Vice has a nice rumble that will satisfy people like me who like their toys to go long & hard. I also love that it’s rechargeable because really, who wants to have to buy batteries on a regular basis?!

One of the most interesting things I’ve learned over the year is that it’s almost impossible to make a vibrator that will work for everyone. What fits one person perfectly, might not work for another. Unfortunately, the Vice just wasn’t the perfect match for my body. While using it on my back, it just didn’t hit the right spots at all. However, after a lot of trial, error and some bizarre yoga-like moves, I was eventually able to figure out a position that worked for me…and once I did, I ended up having a pretty insane orgasm (& then a few more after that. When positioned right the Vice does deliver!) I also liked that the toy was soft and flexible which made it really easy to maneuver. Yogi moves aside, I enjoyed my experience with the Vice and think it’s a good toy- it just wasn’t the perfect toy for me. Perhaps the shape of the Ladygasm Cici would work better for me.

Who I think would enjoy this toy:

Couples: Because of it’s neutral look and non-intimating size, I think this would be a great toy for a couple who wants a high quality toy to experiment with vibrator play but doesn’t want something that looks like a giant, purple penis.

Beginners and people who don’t like huge toys: This toy is on the small side but it delivers the goods. This is why I think it would be a great first toy for someone who maybe isn’t sure what size toy they actually enjoy OR for a seasoned toy user who already knows they don’t enjoy really large toys.

If you are interested in trying theLadygasm Vice for yourself, you can get 20% your purchase when you use the discount code “skinnydip”

Has anyone else tried this toy or something similar?

*I received the Ladygasm Vice free of charge in exchange for my honest assessment of the product. Thank you Ladygasm! xo

Today’s post was brought to you by Adam & Eve. All opinions, rants and raves are my own.

After writing this blog for almost 3 years I’ve come to the conclusion that a lot of people have some pretty weird (and often hilarious) ideas about what being a sex and relationship blogger is all about.

I’ll never forget the first time I met my friend Val in Toronto. We’d known each other for several months online via Twitter and our blogs before we met in person. When we discovered we were both going to be attending the same party, we decided it would be fun to meet up for a drink beforehand. After a few minutes of getting to know each other over drinks on the Drake patio, she said something like:

“You’re so sweet and normal looking”

Slightly taken aback, I laughed and said:

“What do you mean?”

“I don’t know. You’re just not quite what I expected. I thought you’d be bigger”

“Bigger?”

“Curvier. I don’t know. I guess that’s the impression I got from your blog”

(I’m actually quite petite. When I told my boyfriend at the time about the size comment he said, “People assume that you’ll be bigger because you write big. It’s a good thing” Yes! I’ll take it! )

Val is a lovely person so we I ended up having a good laugh about this and have been friends ever since. However, this wouldn’t be the last time I heard someone say the words, “You seem so normal” upon meeting me for the first time. Since that experience, I’ve learned that a lot of people have pre-conceived notions about what someone who writes about sex and relationships should be like.

I know Tina's not a blogger. I just love this photo and wanted an excuse to use it.

Here’s a few of my favorites:

1. We should look a certain way: I remember reading in BUST magazine an interview with a female sex blogger in who said one of the comments she’s received from people is “You don’t look hot enough to write about sex.” What do people think a sex blogger should look like?! People who write about sex come in all different shapes and sizes: curvy, flat chested, male, female and all different variations in between. There’s no one “norm” when it comes to human sexuality so why would there be when it comes to the people who write about it?

2. We sleep with everyone: I remember reading on City Girl’s blog about how her friend had overheard some women gossiping about her blog and one of them commented that because she writes about sex, she must have “slept with a 1000 guys” – a statement so far off from the truth, it’s comical. I think there is a reigning assumption that women who write about sex must be promiscuous by default. In my case, this also couldn’t be further from the truth. Although I definitely had my share of wild sexual escapades in my early 20’s, I just came out of a relationship where I was with the same person for 6 years and I now live with my mother. You do the math. Most of the sex I have these days is with myself.

3. We want to sleep with you too: Oh man. This is the one that bothers me the most as it directly ties in with #3. The most blatant example of this is an email I received from a reader a few years ago. In his message he mentioned that he also hangs out in a certain neighborhood of Toronto that I’ve mentioned in blog posts before and that if he ever saw me in the area he’d ask me if I’d like to go have sex with him “because it seems like I’m into that kind of thing.” Right. Because openly discussing sex means I have no standards whatsoever. SO CREEPY.

4. We’re all really kinky: Some of us are. Some of us aren’t. YES I own sex toys. NO I am not renovating my garage to turn it into my very own sex dungeon (shoe storage facility maybe, dungeon no) . The more I read stuff written by other sex bloggers, the more I realize how un-kinky I really am. Sometimes it makes me feel weird because I feel like I have nothing to contribute to the conversation. This is probably why (with the exception of a few blogs) I tend to gravitate more towards personal and lifestyle blogs that aren’t necessarily about sex & dating. If you’re into whips and chains and being tied up, that’s cool. I’ll try almost anything once but kink has just never been my thing (or maybe I just haven’t discovered the kind of kink I am into.) If that makes me “vanilla” so be it.

5. We don’t live ordinary lives: Last year I tweeted something along the lines of “Six Feet Under Marathon + Good food + snuggling on the couch = The Perfect Weekend” and some guy responded, “Wow that sounds like a pretty boring weekend…FOR YOU” which makes me wonder, what do people think I do on my weekends?! Honestly, I like my downtime. I enjoy hanging out with my cat and reading books. Sure, I have a fondness for bright colors and animal print but my life isn’t exactly a non-stop LMFAO video.

6. We’re all relationship/dating/sex experts: Maybe some of us are, but I’m certainly not and I find it humorous when people actually assume I am. About six months after I started writing this blog, I started to get emails from readers asking for advice. I once got an email from a reader confessing that he was unhappy in his marriage, was considering cheating on his wife and wanted to know what I thought he should do – an email that made me stare at my computer screen and say “Omg, I’m SO not equipped to deal with this” I don’t know how to fix your marriage, or whether you should call her, or what brand of butt plug you should use or the best place to meet hot guys. I’ll try my best to help you out but really it’s like the blind leading the blind here. I thought this was painfully obvious?

7. We’re always looking for “inspiration” and want you to tell us about all of your disturbing sex exploits: People seem to be very comfortable telling me stuff. A little too comfortable at times. Don’t get me wrong – I love a good story as much as the next person. For example, if you have a story about how you hooked up with _________ (insert name of D-List Hollywood actor) and he tried to pee on you in the shower, I want to know about it because I’m just nosy like that. However, some things are better kept to yourself. Like that time you hired a Russian hooker with your friends and then all took turns with her while everyone watched. No offense, but I don’t really need to know about that.

I can’t tell you how many times I have met guys who have said to me:

“Oh my god. Do I have a story for you! You’re totally going to want to blog about this!”

Then, they proceed to ear rape me with a nightmare inducing story that I’ll spend the next 4 days trying to block out of my mind forever and ever. This is exactly what happened last summer when I went out with a large group of friends for dinner. Amongst our group was a guy – we’ll call him “Steve” – that I had never met before. After dinner we all decided to head over to a local candy store to grab some of their homemade ice-cream that they are famous for. While standing next to a giant display of Pez dispensers, Steve says to me:

“So, I hear you blog about sex. Boy, do I have a story for you. You’re probably going to want to blog about this!”

(annnnnd here we go again!)

He then launches into an extremely graphic story about about the first time he had sex with a girl while she was on her period.

IN A CANDY STORE.

WITH CHILDREN AND PARENTS WITHIN EARSHOT.

IT WAS THE WORST THING EVER.

8. We want to talk about sex all the time: Although I’ll happily ramble on about vibrators ad nauseam, I could just as easily spend hours talking about music, books, fashion or even social justice issues. It’s so easy when you write about sex to come off as one sided and scare people off in the process. I’m a storyteller by nature. As I told my BiSC roomie Grace before me met, I write about sex & relationships because it’s easy for me and I have fun doing it. If I was really good at styling my own outfits or cooking my own food, I’d have a blog focused on those things but I don’t.

9. We’re going to blog about you: Obviously I can’t speak for everyone, but there is a lot I don’t write about. There’s something to be said about keeping certain things to yourself and that means respecting the privacy of people I get involved with. With that said, if you do something completely ridiculous like tell people that we slept together when it never happened or try and pick me up in the camping aisle of Walmart – I’m sorry, but I’m totally going to write about you.

When people make these kinds of wacky assumptions, I just try and laugh it off, taking pleasure in the fact that they don’t know my deep dark secret: my life is actually kind of boring.

Do you feel like people assume certain things about you based on your blog or profession?

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