The We-Vibe and Vagina Disses


This Spring I went a little sex toy crazy.

It wasn’t long after I purchased my beloved Lelo Mona that I decided that I absolutely needed to try the We-Vibe. Like, RIGHT AWAY.

If you don’t spend time online reading sex-toy reviews (like I obviously do) you’re probably wondering “What’s the big deal with this We-Vibe thing?!” Let me break it down: the We-Vibe is a vibrator that you can use solo OR while you’re having sex with a real live person. Confused? Watch the explanation video! The toy has won all kinds of awards and has received glowing reviews (no pun intended). Also, it was designed by Canadians – which seems fitting, considering we are a culture that is trapped inside for most of the winter. What else are we going to do?!

I became a bit obsessed with procuring a We-Vibe of my own.

On a sunny Sunday afternoon I headed out into the city in search of this toy that had been described to me by a friend as “the guaranteed cum shot”. The only problem….it seemed to be sold out in Toronto! NOOOOOOO! This only made me more determined. I spent the afternoon driving around the city from sex shop to sex shop, where I was politely told that the toy was on back order. I then spent a good hour or two at Remy’s patio drowning my disappointment in some really bad overpriced sangria. I’m very determined. Once I get an idea in my head that I “NEED” something, I won’t rest until I find it. (Currently, I am searching for the perfect maxi dress to wear to a pool party in two weeks. I will find it. However, sangria might once again be required.)

After extensive sangria-fueled googling on my iphone & some phone calls, I eventually found a place that had a few in stock. An hour later I was heading home (a very happy girl) with a shopping bag containing the We-Vibe, some porn and other goodies.

(I swear to god, most of my Sunday afternoons don’t look like this….just some of them)

I wasn’t planning on doing a product review of the We-Vibe but, I need to at least give you guys the Coles Notes version so that the rest of this story makes sense. So here it is:

BOTTOM LINE: I think I am probably the only person on earth to say this but, I was really underwhelmed by the We-Vibe.

The first time I tried it was with BF. When we first put it in and started to have sex, we were like “This feels pretty good!”. But, the more we got into it, the more annoying the We-Vibe became. The We-Vibe just wouldn’t stay in one place. It kept slipping and sliding around with every thrust. We would have to stop what we were doing to re-adjust it, which turned into a bit of a mood killer. Also, I really wanted to experiment with the different speeds settings, but I found it really difficult to switch settings without stopping everything completely. Eventually, the We-Vibe was more of a distraction than anything else. I had this moment where I was like, THERE IS WAY TOO MUCH GOING ON. GET THIS THING OUT OF ME (the We-Vibe, that is). We ended up yanking the toy and finishing things the good old fashioned way.


For me, the We-Vibe was the sexual equivalent of the Turducken. It takes something that is already good (Sex/Turkey) and then stuffs in a bunch of stuff that doesn’t really need to be there.

I’ve played with the toy a few times on my own which, I have enjoyed a lot more. Alone, I had more control over the toy. The We-Vibe is pretty flexible so I was able to bend the arms so that they hit the right spots without having to worry about slippage. Overall though, my main complaint about this product (something I noticed the first time I used it as well) is that even on the highest setting, the vibrations just aren’t strong enough for me. I’m used to a toy with a bit more power which is why I love my Lelo. It’s not that this toy was terrible (it
will get you off), it just wasn’t the giant-orgasm-holy-grail that I expected it to be. We-Vibe, I’ve had better.

Now, flash-forward to Thursday night…..

I was at a networking event with my friend. It was a very girly event: there were lots of pink martinis & a bunch of different vendors with tables set up throughout the club. One of the vendors was a company that sells sex toys. Naturally, I had to go and check it out. One of the toys they had sitting on their table was the We-Vibe. So, I decided to strike up conversation with the girl that was manning the booth. I told her that I had purchased it, that I found the toy slipped around a lot & asked her if she had received similar feedback from other customers. Her reply was,

“I’ve never heard that. Maybe you need to like...tighten up your vagina

“Um, I’m pretty sure my vagina is FINE. The toy just didn’t work for me”

“I know but maybe your vagina is kind of...loose

“I don’t think so”

“I mean it could be….”

“It’s not…..I mean, it’s received good feedback

She gave me her card and I walked away thinking:

“Did that conversation really just happen?!”

So, words of wisdom:

If you want to be my friend, work with me, or have me promote your products on my blog:

DON’T DIS MY VAGINA.

(And now that I’ve managed to say the word vagina a 8,00000000 times, I’m off to enjoy the sun. I hope everyone else is having a fabulous weekend!)

Has anyone else tried the We-Vibe? (or maybe had an equally as awkward conversation recently?)

A trip to the Sex Toy Store



BF was gone for most of March


BF is gone for most of May.

BF will be gone part of July.

If you haven’t figured it out already, BF travels a lot for his job.

And…well…I have “needs”

(I know he does too but, we’re talking about ME right now)

Before he left on his most recent excursion we discussed the possibility of him buying me a new Sex Toy for when he’s not around. I have a few toys already but all of them are…broken. Yes, you heard right. When I told my friend about this she said, “That’s hilarious. Only YOU would break your Sex Toys“. It’s actually not as twisted and perverse as I make it sound. The reason they are broken isn’t from over-use. I SWEAR! “Veronica” my original purple vibrator, no longer works because the plastic cap that holds the batteries in became brittle and cracked in half. As for my other vibrating toy, something is wrong with the motor. It doesn’t vibrate like it used to and using it is about as exciting as riding a bike down a unevenly paved street (in other words: not very). I’m long overdue for a new toy.

I wanted BF and I to pick out something together but, with him working 12-16 hour days right up until he left for China, we never found the time to make this purchase. On the day of his departure, he came into our bedroom at 5am and said to a very groggy me:

“I’m sorry we didn’t buy your toy. I left you a stack of cash on the kitchen table. Use some of it to buy whatever you like”

“But, I thought you wanted to pick it out together?”

“No, buy what you like babe. I don’t want to meet the other guy!”

Sunday, I woke up and said to myself “TODAY IS THE DAY!” After a hearty breakfast at the Greek Diner, I headed down to Queen West and paid a visit to the nice people at Come as You Are.

I really like this store. The vibe inside is very laid back, welcoming & women friendly. The staff are really helpful and knowledgeable which is a huge bonus. Buying Sex Toys (especially if its been awhile or you’re totally new to the game) can be a bit overwhelming. There are a million different options in a million different colors. There are the vibes that look like distorted penises (weird angles, bulbous heads, WAY too many bulging veins for my liking). There are the vibes that look like cute animals (I understand that you might not want something that looks like a penis if you’re not into men but, a DOLPHIN. Really?! How is this a better option?). And then of course the ones with so many ribs & doohickies & tentacles that look more like some kind of sea creature than something I want to play with.

In the end, I chose THIS.

I was attracted to the streamlined Swedish design, the multiple speeds/functions and that it comes with a WARRANTY (because obviously I need one).

When I walked out of the store & looked down at the hot pink box (apparently I like to match my toys to my blog), my heart warmed when I noticed that it was named “Mona”. I knew that I had made the right choice.



I won’t give you a play by play product review. I’ll leave that to awesome people like City Girl who already do fabulous sex toy reviews on their blogs. I will tell you one thing about this toy that made me giggle: There’s this one setting where the vibrations sound musical. It sounds like an auto-tune song playing between your legs. I’m not into T-pain but boy, I don’t mind this. And THAT is hopefully the last time I’ll ever use “T-Pain” and “between my legs” in the same paragraph.

Later that night I spoke to BF long-distance:

“I bought my toy and I think you’ll like her”
“Her?”
“Yeah, it comes with a name. Like a Cabbage Patch kid. And don’t worry, she doesn’t even really look like a penis”
“What do you mean?”
“No veins or balls”
(slightly defeated) “Well, I guess its a good thing we bought that bulk pack of batteries at Ikea before I left”
“Oh, she doesn’t use batteries. You plug her in to the wall and charge her like a phone”
“Should I even bother coming home?!”

Here is the thing guys:

You don’t need to be intimidated by toys. Sure there are some things that they do well but there are many others they don’t. A toy can’t replace the feeling of someone’s bare chest against yours, the sensation of skin against skin, the rush you get from a passionate kiss. A piece of plastic can’t surprise you in the bathroom and hoist you up onto the counter while it rips your clothes off. You need a real person for that. A toy is what it is: fun.

I read somewhere that the only power we have anymore in our society is the power to decide what we consume. This thought kind of depresses me. However, I have to say: when I walked out of that store, I did feel empowered. WHY? Because I bought something that was specifically for my own pleasure alone (although I think Mona will come out and play with BF and I at some point). Because I am fortunate enough to live in a society where I can openly buy objects like this. Because “Lady V” was totally disrespected during the Hand-Raping incident on Saturday night and now I am doing something nice for her. Because she deserves to be treated nice. Yours does too.

PS. I may have opened Pandora’s box (no pun intended) because now I also want THIS.
and possibly a couple of other goodies, like THIS that unfortunately is only available in the States. I’m not sure what upsets me more: that I won’t be able to buy that toy or that I won’t be able to have these Cynthia Vincent for Target wedges because Target also doesn’t ship to Canada. American companies, you are missing out on business!

Questions? Comments? Have I totally freaked you out?!

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