Eva Couples Vibrator Review + Gift Certificate Giveaway


Before I hang up my sex blogging hat for good, there are just a few pieces of housekeeping to look after. As I mentioned when I announced my sex blogging retirement, there are still a few sex toys on my bucket list that I’d like to try and review. One of those toys is the Eva Couples Vibrator.

A good friend of mine has called this toy, “the best sex toy ever” so, naturally I had to try it out. Luckily, the nice people at Excuse Moi kindly offered to hook me up. You can read my review here.


Also, as a thank you to my readers I’m giving away a $50 gift certificate to use at Sexcuse Moi (just in case you wanted to pick up a little something-something on your own sex toy bucket list.)

To enter, you just need to subscribe to my newsletter and follow the prompts below. I’ll choose a winner on August 17th. 

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Honest Conversations: Talking about Vaginal Dryness with Vagisil


Real talk: your body starts to go through some interesting changes in your 30’s. I’ve gained weight, lost weight, dealt with adult acne, finally cured said acne—the list goes on. The latest phenomenon to add to my ever-growing list of body changes: hormonal night sweats. I wake up drenched at least 4-5 nights per month. It’s disconcerting, it’s uncomfortable and, apparently, totally normal for someone my age. Has anyone else experienced these?

Another thing I’ve heard a lot about but haven’t experienced yet is vaginal dryness. I’ve written a lot about the benefits of lube in the bedroom, but what if you just feel dry on a day to day basis?

I firmly believe that in order to feel good in our bodies, we need to be able to have open, honest conversations about them—even about the stuff that may seem less than sexy. So, today I’ve teamed up with Vagisil to get the conversation started.

Although vaginal dryness doesn’t currently affect me at this point in my life, I do have some women in my life who have experienced issues with dryness following pregnancy and other hormonal changes.  Here’s what we need to remember: experiencing vaginal dryness is also completely normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

I used to think that vaginal dryness was just a menopause issue, but actually, women of all ages can experience it at some time in their life. There are a bunch of potential causes of vaginal dryness, including:

  • Stress
  • Pregnancy
  • Certain medications (like antihistamines and birth control pills)
  • Periods
  • Menopause/Peri-menopause
  • Hormones
  • Postnatal hormone shifts
  • IVF treatments

More real talk: I have a long-standing relationship with Vagisil products. Years ago, when I first moved to Toronto as a somewhat wide-eyed 18-year-old and was living on my own for the first time, I experienced my first yeast infection. I remember calling my mom because I had no idea what was happening to my body (I think my exact words were, “Mom, I’m pretty sure I’m dying”). One of the first things she suggested was that I go pick up a tube of Vagisil® Extra Strength Anti-Itch crème. FYI: I wasn’t dying and the cream definitely provided some relief.

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Vagisil recently launched ProHydrate Natural Feel Moisturizing Gel, a product designed to target vaginal dryness. With no added estrogen, perfumes, dyes or preservatives, it’s designed to give women a feeling of natural moisture, wherever and whenever, with a discreet and easy to use applicator.

So, what exactly is ProHydrate Natural Feel Moisturizing Gel? Good question. Basically, it’s a product designed to relieve dryness anytime and make sex more comfortable. Fast acting and long lasting, it has a unique bio-adherent formula that coats the vaginal wall to provide dryness relief instantly, then slowly releases moisture over time. It does this through a unique blend of moisturizers, including Hyaluronic Acids (HA’s), a naturally occurring hydrator found in skin, so it feels like your own natural moisture.

As we age, the percentage of Hyaluronic Acid in our skin decreases which can lead to dryness and fragility. Hyaluronic Acid is so effective that a tiny amount holds up to 1000 times its weight in water and it naturally attracts and retains moisture.

To provide continuous comfort you can use Vagisil® ProHydrate Natural Feel every three days.

“Sounds great, but how do I get the product where it needs to be?”


Anyone who’s used any kind of intimate lubricant knows that things can get, uh, messy fast. One of the things I think is really cool about the ProHydrate Natural Feel Moisturizing Gel is that it comes with single-use pre-filled applicator inserts (wrapped in tampon-like packaging) that effortlessly target the source of dryness. They’re easy to use and totally discreet.

I was also sent a few other products to check out:

Vagisil® pH Balanced wash.

Did you know that your period, tight clothes, sex, even body washes and soap can disrupt your pH balance? This gentle cleanser contains LactoPrebiotic to help support a healthy pH balance. If you’re like me and find a lot of body washes really irritating, this might be a good option for you.

Vagisil® Extra Strength Anti-Itch crème.

Ah yes, an old standby. Although I’ve been lucky and haven’t needed to use this product lately, it’s always a good one to keep handy just in case. Because, well, life with a vagina can be unpredictable.

So, while I don’t necessarily need to use all of these products currently, it’s really nice to know I have options from a brand I trust, if/when I need them in the future.

This post was sponsored by Vagisil. All opinions are my own, because that’s how I roll.

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Go F*CK Yourself With The Nooky Box & Emojibator


(The photo above, while gorgeous, isn’t mine. It’s artist Krystle Mae Jaramillo posed with her pair of Emojibators. Check out her art here.)

When I announced my semi-retirement as a sex blogger, I made a sex toy bucket list of everything I still wanted to try and write about. One the list: the hilarious & kind of adorable Eggplant Emojibator. I mean, it’s an eggplant shaped a vibrator – it’s basically begging to be written about on Skinny Dip ( and now it seems especially apt since my recent post about creepy sexts).

Well, sometimes the stars just align. Not long after making that list, the fine folks at The Nooky Box reached out to me. The Nooky Box is a sex-positive subscription box that’s delivered every three months. They sent me this quarter’s box which features (you guessed it) the Emojibator!


The theme of this quarter’s box is “Sex is Healthy.” Nooky Box founder, Meg Ross, said she was inspired to launch The Nooky Box because she wanted to encourage more positive conversations around sex. So, she decided to create a carefully vetted subscription box that helps couples take the guess work out of choosing the right accessories for the bedroom.

Over the past few years I’ve reviewed several adult subscription boxes, so what makes the Nooky Box unique? Meg says, “We carefully vet and choose the products that go into the boxes with the intention of creating an exciting and cohesive sexual experience. We offer a full user experience with toys, Lube, SWAG, a playlist of music and an erotic story.”

Their company philosophy is “YAY SEX!” As Meg explains, “we want our customers to feel good about their intimate relationships” while helping foster a sex positive environment where people can talk about sex openly and honestly. Amen, to that.


Here’s what I found inside my “Sex is Healthy” Nooky Box:

Perfect Fit Ribbed Cock Ring

Durable and comfortable. This ribbed cock ring by Perfect Fit gives stronger long-lasting erections which hopefully will lead to some great orgasms for everyone involved.

Almost Naked Organic Lube

Almost Naked by Good Clean Love is a water-based lube, made with aloe vera and infused with a touch of lemon and vanilla. When I’m not using Hathor/Sutil lube, this is my go-to brand.

Bfit Classic Love Balls

Make kegal exercise fun with The Bfit Classic Ben Wa style exercise balls. I haven’t tried these love balls yet but I love that they’re silicone and look easy to clean.

Pandora’s Pops NookyBerry Aphrodisiac Lollipops

These Nooky Berry Lollipops by Pandora’s Pops are activated with aphrodisiac herbs and essential oils. I’m saving these for a special occasion and/or a really strong sugar craving (hopefully the stars will once again align & I’ll be able to enjoy them with someone else.)

Bonus Stickers, Samples, and Surprises

Each Nooky Box comes with a variety of stickers, samples, and bonus surprises! Plus a printed short Erotica story. One of the bonus surprises: individually packaged intimate wipes – perfect for stashing in your date night survival kit.

& lastly, the piece de resistance…

Eggplant Emojibator

The Eggplant Vibrator by Emojibator provides 10 settings and includes a hard protective case for storage and travel.


The Eggplant Emojibator is basically one big “That’s What She Said” joke waiting to happen. Although I’ve seen plenty of photos of it online, I was shocked to discover that in person it’s much smaller than I thought it would be. In fact, it fits in the palm of my hand.

Whether you’re dick bombing or photographing an eggplant shaped vibrator, let the record show that camera angles and distance matter.

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While smaller than I expected, it is cute as hell. The Eggplant Emojibator, along with the other items in the Nooky Box, would make an excellent Bachelorette or sexy wedding shower gift.

(Joe the Intern has already tried to claim it for his own purposes. In his words, “it looks like the perfect item to roast over an open spit. PS. It’s dinner time and I may be hangry.“)

What I liked about my Nooky Box experience:

Minimal packaging

The box that it’s shipped in is the actual Nooky Box. It doesn’t feel quite as luxurious as some of the other subscription boxes (that are literally boxes within boxes), but it’s a lot more environmentally friendly.

Gender neutral design

While I personally prefer the edgy/femine chic aesthetic of the Unbound Box, the design of the Nooky Box is fun, bright and gender neutral which is perfect for couples who are looking for something that’s not overtly feminine or masculine. However, the toys contained within the box are less neutral. In order to make use of all of the products at least one person needs to have a vagina and another a penis.

Full sized products

I love that both the vibrator and the love balls are made of body safe materials by reputable companies. The not-quite-full-sized but still substantial tube of Good Clean Love is also a nice touch & perfect for stashing in a purse or overnight bag!

Overall, I thought the Nooky Box provided a thoughtful, well curated experience and I’m really glad I had a chance to check them out before I officially retired.

Do you have a favourite subscription box? Share in the comments below!

Thanks again to The Nooky Box for providing these products free of charge in exchange for my honest opinion. All views are my own because that’s how I roll. 

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On Money, Goals & Guilt

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It’s been a few months since I shared my plans for the New Year and wrote about some of my regrettable purchases from the prior twelve months, so I thought it was time to check in.

I chose the word “Shift” as my theme for 2017 because I want to make some dramatic shifts with my career, finances and personal life. Of all the annual theme words I’ve chosen over the past five years, this is probably the one that’s resonated the most with me. Whenever I’m making a decision – however small- the word pops into my head and I ask myself, “is this choice going to shift me in the direction I want to go?” Even though I still make choices that aren’t always in line with my goals (eating that bag of Doritos, taking a cab when I could take the bus, buying that pair of shoes) because I’m an imperfect human being, thinking about shifting has at least made me more conscientious about my actions and what effect they may have long term.

Plus, as I’ve learned, change happens in small increments. Progress isn’t always visible right away. It’s cumulative.

So, how am I doing with my goals and intentions? Let’s recap.

Be Frugal.

At the beginning of the year I made a “no buy list.”

I also challenged myself to not purchase any new clothing items until at least May. The only category I really followed through on was not purchasing books (more on that in a second!) I did alright with the other items: Makeup (I spent $10 on a Nyx liquid shadow), Art (I more or less avoided any art binges, but I did spend $30 on an autographed Erykah Badu print I saw on eBay) and I bought my Mom and I matching George Michael pins for mother’s day ($30). However, the “no clothing and shoe purchases” rule was an epic failure. I bought some shoes. I bought some clothes. I replaced some basics. I felt varying degrees of guilt about almost all of it.

But then I had a moment the other day. It was right after I paid off the entirety of my two credit cards. For the first time in a few years, I’m completely free of commercial debt. So, apparently I must have done something right the past few months.

I’m still sticking to the no new makeup or book purchases rule, but I’m allowing myself to buy a few things as long as I’m still prioritizing putting money into savings every month. 

Wear the lipstick and earrings.

This is going well…I guess? I bought a couple of new earring & necklaces sets when H&M and Forever21 had a 70% off sale and have been experimenting with those. Still rocking a bold lip. Not everyday, but often enough.

Learn to cook something new every month.

This has been touch and go. While I’ve learned how to make Ropa Vieja (Cuban beef) and perfected my plantain frying skills, I think the goal should actually be: just cook more at home, period.

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Get to Wardrobe Zero.

This is going well. Although I’ve added some things to my wardrobe, I’ve pulled out an equal or greater number of items to be donated or sold. Wardrobe zero, here I come!

Get to Bookshelf Zero.

When I did my taxes a few weeks ago, I was shocked and kind of appalled at how much I spent on books in 2016. I’m not even going to give you a number. Long story short, I feel like I’ve done really well with this goal. Out of the 25 books I’ve read in 2017 so far, I only purchased two of them as e-books. The rest have been from my TBR pile or the library. I also spent $10 on another Prince coffee table book because, reasons. Overall, so much better than last year. I might even challenge myself to not buy anymore books for the remainder of the year….

PS. Are we friends on Goodreads?

Get to Beauty Zero.

With the exception of an overpriced container of Kevin Murphy curl cream that I’m not really feeling (#regretpurchase), I haven’t added any new products to my beauty arsenal.

Fitness Goals.

I’m still doing pole classes and still loving it. New fitness goals: be able to do the splits again and get to the point where I’m not self-conscious about wearing a sports-bra as a shirt at the gym. I imagine this will involve a combination of even more core work & some self-acceptance. Stay tuned.

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Be Limitless.

I struggled with this one. After crashing and burning in April (brought on by trying to do too many things at once) and having a major crisis of faith (should I even be a writer?) I realized I do have limits. I’m most effective when I’m focusing on one or two big goals. As my writing coach recently told me, “your priorities are an asset.” In other words, I’m capable of doing all the things but not all at the same time. Right now I’m all about working on my book, staying fit and being frugal, so I’m just going to focus on that. The ballet, cooking, crafting and learning to drive will just have to wait.

This is all to say that making sustainable changes takes time. Even if you feel like you’re failing, stop and do the math –  there’s probably a few things you are doing right. Focus on those and keep moving forward. At least that’s what I’m trying to remember these days. 

How are you doing?

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15 Must Read Books By Female Authors


A bunch of you have asked me for book recommendations recently, so I finally decided to put together an updated list of the most memorable things I’ve read recently. Two years ago, I made a pact with a friend to read more books written by POC, women and gender non-confirming individuals (plus, I find I naturally gravitate to and enjoy books by these kinds of authors anyways.) So, this list reflects that. Also, I’ve read a lot in the last year (54 books to be exact!), which means that this list is by no means exhaustive. I have lots of other recommendations, but for the sake of keeping things concise I’m going to include them separate posts.

In the meantime, if you’re looking for some female-centric books to devour this summer, look no further. From YA and suspense to non-fiction and lush novels, I’ve tried to include a little bit of everything.

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1. I Will Find You by Joanna Connors.

Part memoir, part investigative journalism, this is one of my favourite non-fiction books I’ve read period“This is it. My rape. I knew it was coming. Every woman knows. And now here it is. My turn.” When Joanna Connors was thirty years old on assignment for the Cleveland Plain Dealer to review a play at a college theater, she was held at knife point and raped by a stranger that grew up five miles away from her. After her assailant was caught, she didn’t speak of what happened to her until 21 years later when her daughter was preparing to go college. When she realizes that the man who raped her was one of the formative people in her life, she sets out to do the seemingly impossible: to find out who he was, where he came from, who his friends were and what his life was like. What she discovers is a story of race, class and cyclical violence, that’s intertwined with her own. Connors writes with incredible bravery and empathy – both for herself and her attacker. The book is stunning and unputdownable.

2. Kill the Boy Band by Goldy Moldavsky.

When asked to name a book that’s just pure fun to read, Kill the Boy Band comes to mind. When a group of teenage girls accidentally end up kidnapping a member of their favourite boy band, all hell breaks loose (in the best way possible.) This pitch black YA novel had me laughing out loud at multiple points. It’s smart, it’s witty and provides a hilarious take on fandom and the cult of celebrity. Whether you loved a boy band, still do or (like me) used to roll your eyes while your friends worshipped the Backstreet Boys, this is a must-read.

3. Problems by Jade Sharma.

A humorous novel about heroin addiction and mental health? Yes, that’s a thing. Dark, raw, and very funny, Problems introduces us to Maya, a young woman with a smart mouth, time to kill, and a heroin hobby that isn’t much fun anymore. This book follows the life of a functioning heroin addict as it begins to unravel. I wouldn’t say this book is laugh out loud funny (although I have a very dark sense of humour and LOL’ed a few times), but some of the situations and Maya’s fuck-ups are so painfully relatable that you can’t help but smile. Problems is about more than just drug addiction, it’s also about the struggle to be alone and a woman while trying to be a decent person in an imperfect world.

4. Sex Object by Jessica Valenti.

In this memoir, Valenti explores the toll sexism takes on women’s lives, from the everyday to the existential. From subway gropings and imposter syndrome to sexual awakenings and motherhood, Sex Object reveals the painful, embarrassing, and sometimes illegal moments that shaped Valenti’s adolescence and young adulthood in New York City. Disclaimer: I haven’t read any of Valenti’s other works, so I have nothing to compare this to. While this book isn’t perfect (some of the chapters felt abrupt to me), I thoroughly enjoyed it. I know men who read this and found it “shocking” which is funny, because to me it just seemed real. My experiences aren’t identical to Valenti’s but I can relate to so much of her story – from her experiences with self-medicating to feeling like she’s not good enough.

5. Barbara The Slut and Other People by Lauren Holmes.

I’ve read a lot of short story collections over the past two years and this is by far one of my favourites. I mean, the title alone. I won’t give you a run down of all of the stories because you can find that on Amazon or Goodreads. I will say this: the writing is amazing. It’s fearless, sassy, hilarious and insightful. Holmes has a way of saying a lot without using too many words. I can’t wait to read what she writes next.

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6. The Veins of The Ocean by Patricia Engel.

I adore Engel’s writing – she’s the author of one of my other favourite books Vida. Set in the vibrant coastal communities of Miami, the Florida Keys, with forays to Havana, and Cartagena, The Veins of the Ocean follows Reina, a young woman, as she tries to re-start her life after her brother dies on death row. I love Reina as a character – she’s complex, funny, insightful and has a sassy, scrappiness to her. The book is an exploration of what happens when life tests the limits of compassion. In the wrong hands this story could be totally depressing, but Engel tells it in a way that’s gorgeous, lush and full of life.

7. Ghettoside: a True Story of Murder in America by Jill Leovy.

On a warm spring evening in South Los Angeles, a young man is shot and killed on a sidewalk minutes away from his home, one of the thousands of black Americans murdered that year – crimes that more often than not won’t be solved. This riveting piece of non-fiction follows Detective John Skaggs & his colleagues -a brilliant and driven group of detectives whose creed is to pursue justice for forgotten victims at all costs – as they set out and solve this crime. This is crime reporting at it’s best and should be required reading for humans.

8. Milk and Honey by Rupi Kaur.

It’s not often that I pick up a book of poetry and read it cover to cover in one sitting, but these poems are beautiful, relatable, life affirming and dare I even say, healing? That’s really all you need to know. Oh, and Rupi Kaur is Canadian, which makes me like her even more.

9. The Book of Unknown Americans  by Cristina Henriquez.

Henriquez is another writer that I absolutely adore. I read this book when it came out two years ago and have recommended it to dozens of people since. When fifteen-year-old Maribel Rivera sustains a terrible injury, the Riveras leave behind a comfortable life in Mexico and risk everything to come to the United States so that Maribel can have the care she needs. Once there, Maribel becomes involved with Mayor, a neighbourhood boy, setting off a chain of events in the process. A story about immigration, guilt, family and star crossed love; like Diane Guerrero’s story, this book feels more essential than ever given the current political climate.

10. Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock.

I’m so, so, glad I read this memoir. This is actually the first book I’ve read by a trans author and it gave me insight into an experience that’s foreign to me as a cis-gender woman. Mock relays her experiences of growing up young, multiracial, poor, and trans in Hawaii, while imparting vital insight about the unique challenges and vulnerabilities of a marginalized and misunderstood population. Read the book & then greedily consume every interview, piece of writing and podcast featuring Mock (like I did) because she’s just the coolest.

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11. An Untamed State by Roxanne Gay.

Mireille is the strong-willed youngest daughter of one of Haiti’s richest sons, she has an adoring American husband, a precocious infant son and by all appearances a perfect life. But her fairy tale comes to a terrifying halt when she is kidnapped in broad daylight by a gang of heavily armed men, in front of her father’s Port au Prince estate. This novel explores Mireille’s horrific captivity, her release and what happens when she tries to rebuild her life in the face of trauma. This book is fast paced read that’s as brutal as it’s compulsively readable.

12. The Girls by Emma Cline.

This novel left me breathless. It takes place in California in the 1960’s and follows Evie, a thoughtful and lonely teenager as she slowly becomes enmeshed with Suzanne, a charismatic girl that belongs to a cult that bears striking resemblance to the Charles Manson “family.” It’s a coming age story about girlhood, sexual awakening and how even in the free love 60’s, women weren’t really that “free.” It’s also how as a girl, you’re always essentially a target and dangerously close to having one bad choice turn into the worst thing ever. Some reviewers found this book slow, but for me it was more hypnotic. Since my Mom was a young adult during this era, I gave her The Girls to read. Everything about the book rang true to her – from the confusing sexual politics of the free love 60’s to the violence at the end. Consider this one officially “Mom approved.”

(My mom also loved Veins of the Ocean and The Book of Unknown Americans.)

13. Soldier Girls: The Battles of Three Women at Home and At War by Helen Thorpe.

This is another awesome non-fiction read. Helen Thorpe follows the lives of three women over twelve years on their paths to the military, overseas to combat, and back home…and then overseas again for two of them. These women, who are quite different in every way, become friends, and we watch their friendship evolve and also what happens when they are separated. This book explores PTSD, brain injuries, sexual harassment and the socio-economic challenges that drive people to enlist in the first place. But the real draw of this book are the women. Like Random Family, I couldn’t stop thinking of these women and spent a good chunk of time googling them to see where they are now.

14. Dare Me by Megan Abbott.

Is this Megan Abbott’s best novel? I’m not sure, but it was the first one I read and after finishing it, I went on to read four more of her novels – all of which I thoroughly enjoyed. It’s been said that no one writes teenage girls and women like Abbott – and it’s true.  A masterful mystery writer, she totally nails the darker side of teenage girlhood, while creating suspense that makes your skin crawl. I listened to the audiobook of Dare Me, which I highly recommend.

15. It Ended Badly: 13 of the Worst Breakups in History by Jennifer Wright.

Spanning eras and cultures from ancient Rome to medieval England to 1950s Hollywood, Jennifer Wright’s It Ended Badly guides you through the worst of the worst in historically bad breakups. This book has everything: heartbreak, beheadings, uprisings, creepy sex dolls, and celebrity gossip. It’s also absolutely hilarious. The perfect read if you’re looking to laugh and feel better about your own breakups(s) while learning a bunch of interesting historic tidbits in the process.

What are you reading right now?

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