“Spoil Me” – Lingerie That Will Make You Want To Stay in Bed All Day

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I’ve always been what people like to call “girly” when it comes to my taste in lingerie and sleepwear. As a child, I preferred night gowns in lieu of pyjama pants because I liked the idea of being comfortable and feeling pretty while I slept. When I was 14, I used my Christmas money to buy my first silk nightie and never looked back.

But, despite my taste for all things lacy and silky, I never thought to identify myself as “girly” until an ex-boyfriend used the word to describe me. I was living in Toronto and boy briefs had recently become trendy for women. The guy I was dating at the time was clearly into that American Apparel-esque look, because the first time he saw me in one of my many pairs of lacy, silky underwear he said, “god, you’re so girly, Simone.” It wasn’t a compliment. He thought my love of lingerie was “silly” and a “waste of money.” One afternoon, he took me to this store called Chocky’s that used to be on Spadina. He pointed me towards a 12-pack of Hanes women’s briefs and told me, “you’d have a lot more money if you just bought these.” He didn’t get it and never would, which is why we’re not together.

But, that experience reconfirmed what I already knew: that I like what I like. The lesson here: whether you’re a fan of Hane’s value packs or Agent Provocateur, don’t let the person you’re dating try and sway you. Own it. I do. However, I prefer the term, “grown woman who likes sexy things” to “girly.”

Anyway.

A few years ago, I wrote about updating my sleepwear collection, but, aside from this pyjama review, I haven’t really written much about what I’ve been wearing under the sheets. (Truth is, my sleepwear drawer is once again in need of an update.)

So, when Lovehoney offered to send me a piece from their new lingerie line, I chose this gorgeous “Spoil Me” Satin Babydoll Set in Plum. The funny thing is, it’s been long documented amongst my friends and family that I hate purple clothing. I think the colour looks terrible against my already very pink skin. But, for some reason I was really drawn to this plum coloured set. I fell in love with how bright and vivid the colour looked in the photos. The majority of my lingerie is black, white, pink or red so I thought this would be a nice change of pace.

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I’ve tried a handful of Lovehoney’s private label lingerie line and every piece has been more impressive than the next. Some of my favourites include the open back panties, the “Adore Me” lace chemise and the “Thrill Me” mesh baby doll (review coming soon.) The “Spoil Me” satin baby doll is no exception. Like the other pieces, the fabric and overall quality is really great. Best of all, it’s super comfortable.

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Let’s take a look at what we have here. The “Spoil Me” Babydoll is made from super soft stretch satin and is trimmed with black lace. It has delicate elastic straps and flirty slits up the side that are also trimmed in black lace & little bows. It comes with a matching thong that is made with the same plum coloured stretch satin.

The fit is very much like in the photo. The bust is fitted but the rest “skims” rather than clings to your body. This makes the piece not only comfortable, but also really flattering. Length wise,  it falls just below the bum on me. (it might fall longer or shorter on you depending on your curves.)

The straps come together in a t-back, which I think is a really fun and modern detail on an otherwise very classic piece.

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As you can see, the thong is really minimal but it includes a cotton lining so you can wear underneath your regular clothes if you wish. Also, check out those sexy lace trimmed slits!

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I love how this piece is detailed, but the real winning factor is the material. If you’ve never tried stretch satin, you need to, stat. Unlike some of my other regular satin pieces, this one stretches and moves with your body, which makes it even more comfortable for sleeping in (or doing, uh, other activities I would assume.)

The only potential downside to this piece is the bust doesn’t offer that much support or coverage. It’s about the same as your average string bikini top. I’m a 32DD and while the Small fit perfectly everywhere else, I found I could have used just a little bit more coverage in the boob area. I’m totally OK with the coverage when I’m at home in bed, but I felt a bit exposed when I tried to photograph this piece (hence, the reason you don’t see any full body shots!) If you have a large bust and like your lingerie to be supportive, you might enjoy The Adore Me chemise or one of Lovehoney’s underwire styles more.

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With that said, if comfort is what you’re after the “Spoil Me” is a real treat. It feels super luxurious & sexy and is easily something I could lounge around in while in bed all day. In fact, I think that’s what I’m going to go do right now.

Screen Shot 2016-01-30 at 3.53.13 PMI received the Spoil Me Baby Doll free of charge in exchange for my honest opinion. All views are my own because that’s how I roll. 

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One Simple Habit That’s Transformed My Mornings

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I know the internet is rife with articles about the benefits of green smoothies (hey, I’ve even written about how much I love smoothies ) but hear me out for a minute. From self-image issues to boudoir photos, I’ve noticed a trend emerging on the blog this month: the body. This is totally unintentional, but I think it’s still a really great starting point for 2016. Especially, sine of my personal intentions in 2016 is to prioritize self-care in all situations. This means making an effort to put healthy things in my body.

I’ve been drinking smoothies for breakfast ever since I received a handful of free samples of Vega One nutritional shake powder at Bloggers in Sin City a few years ago. As I mentioned before, my morning smoothie ritual has become well, exactly that: a ritual. It’s gotten to the point where I actually pack a portable mini-blender & a small container of Vega One powder whenever I travel. Here’s a few reasons why I love smoothies for breakfast.

1. I feel more awake.  Although I still love having a cup or two of coffee in the morning, the extra protein boost wakes me up before I’ve even reached for my coffee grinder.

2. It saves time and energy. I never have to waste time pondering the “what will I have for breakfast?” question. I already know: a smoothie. Knowing that I have something quick, delicious and healthy waiting for me in the kitchen makes my mornings so much more appealing and stress free.

3. Eating well is good for my anxiety. My brain works better when I put nutritious things in my body. Enough said.

4. No sugar or milk also means I feel better. Although there are a lot of different protein powders out there, I like the Vega ones because they’re vegan. No milk = a happier tummy. Also, they’re sugar free. Without a nasty mid-morning sugar crash, I get way more accomplished and feel better all around.

5. It’s my touchstone. Although I try to eat as healthy as possible, I’m not perfect. So, even if the rest of my day goes sideways, it’s comforting to know that at the very least, I start every morning by doing one healthy thing for my body.

After I wrote this post about how to recharge and feel inspired while you’re really busy, the nice people at Vega reached out to me to see I’d be interested in trying their new line of Protein and Greens drink mix. I’ve been religiously consuming the Vega One mix, so I was interested in seeing how this line compares.

So what exactly is this stuff? Here’s what you get with each serving of Vega Proteins and Greens.

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Yep, 20 grams of plant-based protein – perfect for adding to your breakfast or for a healthy snack on the go.  Vega Proteins and Greens is made from real whole food ingredients, SaviSeed (sacha inchi), hemp, pea and sprouted whole grain brown rice protein deliver all essential amino acids you need. Each scoop of Vega Protein & Greens also has the equivalent of two servings of greens from kale, spinach, broccoli, and alfalfa.

How to use it: Mix Vega Protein & Greens with water, juice or non-dairy beverage, shake and go! Or do like I do and blend it into your favorite smoothie recipe.

I received the Vanilla, Chocolate and Tropical flavours and now I’m ready to share my thoughts.Screen Shot 2016-01-18 at 4.17.52 PMI’ve tried the Vega One Vanilla powder before and while I’m sure they’re very similar in taste, I prefer this one for some reason. It seems less overtly vanilla-y to me for some reason. The nice thing about this flavour is that you can literally add almost anything to it and will taste good.

Preferred recipe: Vega has a bunch of awesome recipes on their site (Pomegranate Smoothie Parfait or Dark Chocolate Fudgy Pudding Pudding Pops, anyone?) I’m not even going to try and pretend that I get creative with my smoothie recipes. Usually, with the vanilla powder I’ll use a banana, a handful of whatever frozen fruit I have in the freezer + some almond milk. I don’t overthink it. You can’t go wrong with vanillaScreen Shot 2016-01-18 at 4.21.27 PMI thought I was going to hate the chocolate, because I’m usually grossed out by “fake” chocolate flavoured things, but this ended up being the winner of the pack. The Vega Protein & Greens contains real Dutch cocoa, so it has a surprisingly rich taste…and it’s still sugar free! I could drink this one all day, everyday.

Preferred recipe: Banana, a handful of frozen cherries, a spoonful of ground flax seed and almond milk. It tastes like Black Forrest cake. Screen Shot 2016-01-18 at 4.24.03 PMThe tropical flavour was definitely my least favourite and definitely the least neutral of the bunch. To me it tasted like a mix of apricot, mango and…something else? I still managed to finish the entire container, but this one tasted a bit weird to me. Also, because the taste was so distinctive, I found it didn’t work with all fruit. Frozen pineapple or mango: yes. Blueberries: no.

Preferred recipe: Banana, frozen pineapple & almond milk. Close your eyes & you’ll be whisked back to your pre-teen days of drinking a frothy Orange Julius at the mall with your BFFs. I promise.

Despite not loving the tropical flavour, overall, the new Vega Protein and Greens get an enthusiastic two thumbs up from myself and Joe the Intern (Joe wants you to know he’s still working on his ‘thumbs up.’)

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Although I’ve heard some people complain that the product is chalky and/or doesn’t blend well (even in their super fancy blenders), I didn’t notice this at all (and I have what one would call a crappy, cheapo blender!) It could also be that I’m so focused on how my smoothies make me feel (energized, easier to concentrate, nourished), that I’m not super picky about the texture. Joe the Intern is also a fan.Screen Shot 2016-01-23 at 6.54.17 PMThanks to Vega for sending me these products free of charge! All opinions are my own because that’s how I roll (in other words, I’m legitimately obsessed with Vega smoothies.)

Do you have a favourite smoothie recipe? 

Dating in College. It’s Weird.

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May 2016 will mark the 12th anniversary of my college graduation (Jeebus, when did that happen?!) Although my college days are in the rear view mirror, there are some things that still are fresh in my mind – namely, what it was like dating as a university student. I dated a bunch of different people, had my heart broken a bunch of times and learned a lot of important stuff along the way. These were formative years. While I don’t regret my college dating experiences (ok, maybe I regret a few…) and I kind of wish I still had the hair volume of my early 20’s, you couldn’t pay me to go back to that era of my life. So, when custom-essay.ca asked me to share my thoughts about my college dating, I gladly stepped up to challenge.

Here’s a few reasons why dating in college can be challenging.

Time constraints. 

College students have no time to date properly. I went to a really academically challenging and competitive university. I also typically worked 20+ hours a week.  Dating wasn’t high on my list of priorities. Instead, I was focused on getting good grades and making money. When I had free time, I wanted to go out with my friends and party (read: drink my face off.) If I met someone while I was out with friends, cool. If not, that was OK too. I’m sure college dating is really different now that there’s apps like Tinder, but back then, I would much rather be out with my friends (where I could meet people organically) or working on my Linguistic Anthropology paper than trolling online dating sites for a potential soulmate. In other words, my priorities looked something like this: dating < school work, money, partying, sexy times with hot people I met randomly (in that order.)

Although I used to complain that most of my romantic adventures never amounted to real relationships, I honestly don’t think I could have handled the time and emotional investment that having an actual boyfriend would have required.

Lack of options or access. 

The first time one of my closest friends came to visit me at school, she scrunched up her face and asked, “what’s up with the guys here?! Why does everyone look like they’re vying for a spot on the Fortune 50?” She had a point.

I want you to imagine the ultimate party school (crazy keggers! Dorm parties! Football games! Greek row!) Now imagine the complete opposite of that and you’ve got my alma mater. I think we had a hockey team, but everyone was too busy studying to go watch any games. My school was big, anti-social and nerdy. The male population generally fell into one of three categories:

1) The above mentioned group: Izod shirts, Docker khakis, a copy of the Wall Street Journal or the New Yorker conspicuously peeking out of their Cole Haan messenger bag.

2) Suburban commuter students that looked like their mom still bought all their clothes at Eddie Bauer and maybe even cut their hair.

3) Guys who looked borderline homeless: greasy hair, torn jeans, pyjamas in public, multiple coffee mugs dangling from their MEC backpack. I once saw a guy wear a bathrobe to class. A bathrobe. 

In my four years of undergrad, I only met 3-4 guys at school that I was actually attracted to. I briefly dated one of them (and by “brief,” I mean we went out twice.) The rest of my love interests I met through housemates, coworkers or while partying at underground clubs with my friends.

No one really knows how to date. Not really. 

A few years ago, New York Times writer Alex Williams, wrote a piece about “The End of Courtship” which blamed all of the usual suspects (smartphones, technology, online dating, hook-up culture) for the death of modern romance. As she writes, “Dinner at a romantic new bistro? Forget it. Women in their 20s these days are lucky to get a last-minute text to tag along. Raised in the age of so-called “hookup culture,” millennials — who are reaching an age where they are starting to think about settling down — are subverting the rules of courtship.” 

While I don’t disagree with Williams, the fact that traditional dating is lacking in your 20’s isn’t anything new. I can count on one hand the number of times I went on a “real date” in college. Not only does the average 20-something not have the disposable income to wine & dine each and every one of their love interests, there’s also a good chance that they haven’t learned how to date in this way yet. In college, the best dates were usually the most casual ones. The times I did go on traditional dates in college that involved wine, a fancy dinner & roses, it always felt forced and awkward. It wasn’t until I was out of university and dating guys who were a bit older that I started to go on “real dates” that were actually enjoyable – chic bistro & all. So, a note to the college students: if you’re after the latter, dating does get better with age.

Hook-up culture is a thing. 

People like to pretend that hook-up culture is also a relatively new phenomenon, but it’s not. College is a time to experiment with all kinds of things…including sex. I know I did. Similar to the women in Kate Taylor’s New York Times article (“Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too“), I saw my college escapades as a cost/benefit kind of situation. I wanted to get the maximum return, for the least investment. Like the girls interviewed in Taylor’s article, I was super busy and the people I was interested in were also super busy. Dating in the traditional sense wasn’t really a thing. Instead, it was easier to seek out casual relationships (i.e. a friend with benefits) that allowed me to skip ahead to the good stuff – sex and cuddling – without the emotional investment of a long term relationship. This kind of arrangement worked for me until it didn’t.

Sometimes, hooking up sucks. 

When you decide that you want more than a casual relationship, the college dating scene can be a really lonely place. It can also hurt like a hell when you develop feelings for the person you’re hooking up with, only to find out that they just want to keep things casual. True story.

Everyone is trying to figure out who they are. 

I think the biggest challenge of dating in college is that everyone you meet is still trying to figure themselves out. That’s not a bad thing – after all, that’s what college is for. Unfortunately, even if you think you have a clear idea of who you are and what you want, a lot of the people you try to date don’t. I can’t tell you how many times I was broken up with because the other person “just needed to find himself/go to India on a vision quest/join the Peace Corps/Do Ayahuasca” or all of the above.

While it’s easy to focus on the negative aspects of dating in college, it can also be a lot of fun. I’m grateful for all my college year hook-ups and romantic failures. If I hadn’t had these experiences and been dissatisfied with many of them, I never would have learned what I really wanted and needed out of my relationships.

What do you think are some of the challenges of dating in college?

This post was brought to you by custom-essay.ca. All opinions are my own because that’s how I roll. Image credit: The Little Things. 

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